#612 – New Website, New Me

I have written you only once since January 2019, and that was back in March of this year to discuss academic changes that I was in the process of making. There have been a LOT of other changes since post #610. This is going to be a hastily thrown together post that’s essentially a collection of long bullet points to catch long-time readers of my blog up to the present.

First off, something that happened before post #611. On June 28, 2019, on the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots, I came out as a non-binary, gyneromantic bi/pan/greysexual. This means that I don’t identify as either male or female, that I am romantically attracted to female identifying or presenting people, and that while I almost constantly experience aesthetic (“you look very nice”) or sensual (“I want to hug/snuggle you”) attraction, I rarely experience sexual attraction and when I do, gender doesn’t matter. That’s an awful lot of words to say, so generally speaking, when someone asks I just say that I’m queer.

Late last year, I started using the name Quinn in certain small groups of people – mostly online, but a few select friends I know in person. I’ve never liked the name I was given at birth and I’ve wanted to use Quinn since I was 19 and looking for an on-air name for the radio station I worked at. I never got around to using it, mostly because I thought I would screw up and use my real name on-air, so I just changed my surname instead. For the first couple weeks, when someone called me Quinn, I would get a little misty eyed over it. It felt more like me.

Fast forward to 2020. It’s been a hell of a year. So far this year, I’ve lost my mother (to COVID-19), a half dozen good friends that I’ve known for a couple decades (to various illnesses), and one of our cats (to either an aggressive form of cancer or an infection that reached his brain). My primary hobby has had to move online-only, which is less-than-ideal in a hobby that thrives on in-person events, classes, and demonstrations. To cope with the grief I’ve buried myself into The Elder Scrolls Online and have very effectively practiced avoidance since all the deaths started happening. Eventually, I’m going to have to face my grief, I know. But not yet.

I’m also going back to school in the spring for two courses, Composition II and Beginning Creative Writing. I’m looking forward to this new direction in my education and will be talking about it more in a future post.

Finally, with both Mom and Dad gone, I can make the change that I’ve been wanting for most of my adult life, and I have filed the paperwork to legally change my name to Quinn. As of the time of this writing, I am awaiting a court date.

So with the new identity comes a new look to my blog, and a new website: quintessential dot blog. MWMISOSELf dot com will still get you here for the time being, but sometime next year that website will expire, and you’ll need the quinntessential address to get here.

Okay, next post will be a little less disjointed, but will also be soon. I need to get back to writing regularly and this is the best way to do that. So until then, welcome to the new website and the new me.

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